The 101 on being a Bridesmaid

The 101 on being a Bridesmaid

“I am a bridesmaid!” Now what?! Being chosen as a bridesmaid is quite an honour, considering that the bride has hand-picked you as one of her favourite people to share in her wedding journey. The bridesmaid is an integral part of any wedding and should be careful not to neglect her duties. But what exactly are your duties as a bridesmaid during all the different stages of the wedding? Wedding Collection has selected 20 important responsibilities that we think every bridesmaid should stay on top of!


  • Offer to help with the different tasks that are at hand, but try to be specific to show real interest. For example, “Would you like me to help you shop for wedding favours?” or “Do you need some help with the guest list?”
  • Go shopping for her special wedding gown. This is a major honour and you should always remember to give lots of support and constructive criticism.
  • Assist the Matron of Honour in hosting, planning and paying for the Bachelorette and Bridal Shower. Also make sure to keep a record of all the gifts received at various parties, so that the bridal couple can write Thank-You notes.
  • Communication is key! Many times information prior to a wedding does not reach everyone. Friends will appreciate confirming plans of each shower and party as well as wedding day information.
  • Plan to go group-shopping for bridesmaid’s dresses, shoes and jewellery. Remember to break in your shoes before the wedding day; minimizing discomfort and allowing you to party until the break of dawn.
  • Attend the ceremony rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.
  • Help the bride in the seating arrangement. This can be a very complicated process, especially with large weddings. Try and relieve the stress by making it fun with a creative table layout chart, this will make it easier to move people around until you have a perfect spot for everyone.
  • Provide plenty of emotional support both during the planning and on the wedding day.
  • Be a trooper, no matter how stressful the situation gets always remain calm, tactful and gracious.
  • Purchase a wedding present perhaps with one or several of the other bridesmaids. This provides more buying power, and two heads are better than one when it comes to wedding gift ideas. Sometimes the entire bridesmaid troupe pitches in for one knock-her-socks-off wedding gift!


Wedding Day

  • Assist the bride in getting ready for the wedding; putting on the dress, tying her shoes, hair and make-up and keeping the nerves under control.
  • Running any last minute errands; Be on hand to confirm flower delivery times etc.
  • Ask if the bride needs anything (food, water, etc.) all the way up till the time she is walking down the aisle. She will really appreciate it!
  • Help make sure the bride has privacy if she needs some quiet time before the ceremony.
  • Assist the guests to their seats and be social prior to the wedding. The guests love to see the bridesmaids and groomsmen out and about.
  • Take some deep breaths and walk slowly down the aisle, since it is common to speed up. If a groomsman walks down the aisle with you, make him refrain from talking or fooling around.
  • Always look for the unexpected since it is common for the most uncommon things to happen (i.e., something falling down at the alter). If you are close enough, fix what needs to be fixed so the bride, groom and their families can focus on the ceremony.
  • If you are single, make sure to mingle and have a great time at the party! It is mandatory to try and catch the bridal bouquet. If you are with your partner, make sure to dance and socialize since it means a lot to the bride and groom (when they have time to sit down) to see their friends having and creating a good time for themselves and the other guests.
  • Make sure that everyone gets a ‘Thank You’ gift when leaving and sign the guest book for the bridal couple.
  • Help the newlyweds to load all the gifts and gather all their things at the end of the night.